Notes to self ...

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Notes to self …

  1. Your friend won’t hate you if you don’t text back immediately.

  2. It’s ok if you choose rest over going for a night out with friends, or suggest a quieter night in with a take away.

  3. You can arrive empty handed to a friends house. You can arrive empty handed to a friends house. You can arrive empty handed to a friends house.

  4. It’s ok to create white space in your diary simply to rest and catch up with yourself. (Rename it recovery if that helps ;)

I know it’s hard … I know that the voice inside your head is screaming at you, saying things like; they’ll stop asking you, you’ll miss out, you can’t let them down, they’ll stop being your friend, you'll be left out, rejected, unloved. I know it feels scary.

I also know that you are exhausted, from always saying yes, from baking the thing to avoid going empty handed, from rejecting rest, from being there for everyone else, from pushing your needs and wants deep down inside of you … The tension & heaviness you feel in your body when an invitation or request comes in, is your nervous system screaming for rest, nourishment and softness.

You are allowed to rest.

You are allowed to sit on the sofa and read your favourite book (not the intellectually stimulating one, but the trashy one that makes your heart feel like it’s expanding out of your chest).

You are allowed to watch the TV show that feels like a warm blanket because it’s story lines are so predictable and the scenes so cosy.

You are allowed to knit, crochet, sew, collage, colour-in, do the jigsaw puzzle.

You are allowed to rest without guilt. Because you are a human being in a busy, hectic, and overwhelming world.

And with time you’ll feel restored, rejuvenated, uplifted and an invitation will come in and you body will respond with a feeling of expansion and lightness, and you’ll be ready to say YES with your whole heart.

So my invitation for you is, when the next invitation or request comes into the What’s App group, ask yourself, does this bring a feeling of expansion or tension in my body … and be guided by that, rather that what you feel you ‘should do’ or the fear of what will happen if you don’t.

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I’m Issie. I’m a Life & Creativity coach.

I work with women who struggle with negative self talk, overwhelm and people pleasing. 

They often come to me at a moment of transition, either in work, relationships or motherhood, & are generally feeling unsatisfied with how life is.

I love using creativity as one of my main tools because research (& my own lived experience) shows that having a creative practice overwhelmingly increases peoples happiness, life satisfaction and sense that life feels worthwhile. 

As a coach I offer support and structure at a point when women are re-discovering themselves, so that they can go forward in life with greater confidence in who they are.  

You can discover more about me & ways you can work with me in the 1-1 Coaching section on my website :)